I'm Not Better Than You!!

I am so tired of people telling me that I'm not any better than they are. Of course I'm NOT any better than you. When did I ever say I was a better wife, a better parent, a better woman, a better rider, a better what-the-fuck-ever you think I'm "better" at than you?!

Never.

Why are so many people getting so butt-hurt when someone does something "against the grain" these days instead of following "fads" and "trends?"

I'm not better than you. I've never claimed to be better than you. I will never be better than you.

Do we have that clear?

I AM NOT BETTER THAN YOU

OK?!

So I cloth diaper... and I babywear... and I bedshare/cosleep some nights... and I practice strict car seat safety... and I "practice" attachment parenting... and I breastfeed... and I do things differently than you.

When I am having a conversation and a topic comes up and I'm "different" than others, I am not attacking you. I am not insinuating my way is better than yours. I am giving you another perspective, just like you asked.

This has been a topic among many mommy groups I'm involved in. When people, not just parents, do things differently we're looked at like the people with tinfoil on their heads to ward off aliens. We are called "stupid Hippies..." I've heard "tree hugger." "Earth kisser." Really off-the-wall "insults." I've even been called off-the-wall names... All because women that are like-minded as I am don't follow the fad trends of the modern day world. We do things differently so we automatically think we're "better" than you because we choose to think outside the box... Gotcha

I don't know about you, but I don't see the correlation.

I am NOT better than you.

So when you post a rant on Facebook. Or when you ASK me for own personal opinion. Or you vent to me face to face...
Do not be surprised if you don't hear what you WANT to hear. Don't be surprised when what comes out of my mouth does not align with your thinking. Don't be surprised if I'm brutally honest.

Because, folks, I'm honest. That's just how it is. You don't want to hear the truth?! Do not... I repeat. Do NOT ask me for my opinion. I will spout off exactly what I'm feeling and thinking right down the the very last painfully honest letter.

But. I have never once thought I was better than any other person out there. I just do things differently than most.

So don't feel attacked. Don't feel offended. Embrace someone else's point-of-view. Take what you want and leave the rest.

I am not better than you.

Until next time, friends

Comments

  1. AnonymousApril 16, 2014 at 5:39 PM

    The problem is that when you post "your way" of doing things, you come across as judgy and superior. I truly don't believe that you agree there is no "right or wrong way" or you wouldn't post half of the stuff that you do. You seem to frequently have this issue, so maybe it's time to reevaluate the way you give your "opinion".

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    1. BrandyApril 16, 2014 at 6:35 PM

      Here's the issue I have with the internet... You cannot tell tone over type. So if you knew me in real life (which I'm assuming you do but I don't know since you're posting anonymously) then you would know that I am a really loving, kind and caring person.

      I admit, I'm brutal. I'm bold. Things I post, I post because I can relate to them and I find them interesting. Do you post things on your Facebook page that you find interesting and can relate to? Most people don't post things that they don't find interesting or that they don't relate to.

      I'm sorry if people take the things I say wrong. That's the problem with texting, facebooking, emailing, etc. YOU take the text how YOU want to perceive it. I've been caught in that trap before and I've had to step back and figure out exactly how to perceive what someone is saying. If I can't, I ask.

      Quite honestly, you can believe whatever you want to believe. The ONLY thing in parenting that has a right and a wrong way is car seat safety. That's it. As stated before, I don't give a shit what you do with your child otherwise. I post things, as stated before, because I find them interesting and I can relate.

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  2. Ashley TolinApril 16, 2014 at 9:40 PM

    Well said, Brandy!
    I completely agree. The only parenting "choice" that isn't up for debate is car seat safety. There IS a right way and a wrong way, and the difference between the two could be life or death. And I, like you, can't sit back and be silent while others put their kids in blatant danger...

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    1. BrandyApril 17, 2014 at 12:43 PM

      <3 I couldn't agree more. That's the only "parenting debate" I care about when it comes to how people do it. The rest is not my business.

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