Can't We All Just Get Along?!

Hey you... Yes you...

With those judgmental eyes

That negatively charged stare

That scowl on your face... 

Quit it.

Circ vs. Non-Circ
Breastfeeding vs. Formula Feeding
Babywearing vs. Strollers
Solids at 6 months vs. Solids at 4 months 
Cloth diapers vs. Disposables 

The list goes on
And on
And on 

In the words of my wise dad-in-law...
Can't we all just get along?

Ladies. It's time to just stop. Stop being bugged because someone didn't breastfeed and you are. Or is formula feeding instead of breastfeeding. Stop being offended because someone is cloth diapering and you're using disposables. Or is using disposables and not cloth diapering. Stop being defensive because someone is waiting to feed solids at 6 months instead of introducing solids at 4 months in hopes their baby will sleep longer. In turn, don't be judgmental when someone feeds their 4 month old solids instead of waiting until 6 months. 

Can't we all just love and support each other?

I know I need to take my own advice. It's something I've been working on for awhile now. I'm a passionate person, an outspoken and blunt person. There's no getting around that. It's who I am and quite frankly, I'm not going to change for anyone. But just because someone doesn't make the same parenting decisions that you make or I make... It just doesn't matter.

Let's stop thinking that they're a worse parent than you are because they decided that babywearing wasn't for them and they'd rather use a stroller. Or that they are spoiling their child by co-sleeping and babywearing. 

I will always be passionate and stick to my guns on car seat safety. There is no doubt about that. Car seat safety is not something you should slack on. There IS a right way or a wrong way to use car seats.

But when it comes to everything else... who cares?! It's not affecting your life. Parent how you want to parent. Let me parent how I want to parent. 

We're women. We're moms. Let's support one another. Let's be gentle to one another. I'm tired of people getting offended because I'm labeled a "crunchier" mom than they are by society. My ways of parenting do not imply that your ways are worse. Or that my decisions make me a better parent than your decisions.

So quit, ladies. Let's love each other. Let's quit being offended about whatever it is you all are getting your panties in a bunch about. Let them make their decisions for their family and you make your decisions for your family.


Until next time, friends


Comments

  1. AnonymousMarch 19, 2014 at 11:12 PM

    Please practice what you preach.

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    1. BrandyMarch 20, 2014 at 9:19 AM

      Nobody's Perfect... That's the beauty of life. It takes all kinds of kinds to make the world go round. We can chose to admit our mistakes and overcome them to become a better person. A better spouse. A better parent. A better friend.

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